Friday, January 23, 2009

WHY?

Why do things happen? Sometimes there are good reasons why things happen - - and other times, they just seem to happen. And sometimes they just keep on happening!

The one most important thing to me in this lifetime is to have my family (my entire family) in a loving, friendly, open and happy relationship. I never knew that the odds of this happening were even less than me winning the Lottery!

When my children were small and we were trying to take pictures with all of them, inevitably, one of them would make a face or not be happy. It is so hard to take pictures of kids (or families) with everybody smiling at the same time. Well, I've come to the conclusion that the same holds true to the idea of everybody being on good terms all at the same time!

I have spent the last twelve years working in the Temple where people come to unite their families for eternity. That's what I want too. Why is it so hard? I guess the really important things in life are the most difficult.

Recently, a few friends and my daughters talked me into going onto Facebook, a website where you can keep in touch with friends and even locate a few you haven't seen in forever. Should be fun, right??? Well, even seemingly innocent fun things can turn sour. Why, I don't know!

The same holds true with Blogs - - funny I should say that since I'm writing on one right now! People read, they comment, they delete, they make blogs private, they delete blogs - - and why? I'm beginning to think that the only safe way to communicate with anyone is face to face because even on the phone things can get messed up. I originally started this blog at the request of my daughter and I thought it might be a good way to verbalize my feelings and get things off my chest. Maybe it would be safer to write something down on a blank sheet of paper and then tear it up (or shred it) when you're done and throw it safely away so no one anywhere can take things out of context or misinterpret them.

I don't really know who will or won't read this post - - but these were just a few scattered thoughts that I really wanted to get off my chest for the time being. At any rate, not one single word that was typed was meant to upset anyone about anything. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings and I don't want to get my feelings hurt anymore either.

And as far as Facebook goes, I'll be deciding in the next few days if it's worth it or not to stay on there. I'm tired of the add, removing, new invites, adding, and removing for who knows what reason - - whether this is direct or indirect communications (the "take a hint" kind) or whatever, feelings continue to be hurt - - and believe it or not - - I DO HAVE FEELINGS.

Bon Voyage for now!

2 comments:

Andrea said...

I agree. I don't understand how some things get so complicated.

I am sick of all the MISCOMMUNICATION! If someone has something to say just say it - honestly but still respectful & courteous. If someone has a question just ask it - in a nice tone. I'm also so tired of all the hurtful & wrongful ACCUSATIONS!

I'm sorry that you have mixed feelings about being on facebook and having a blog. They should be fun! And you shouldn't have to constantly walk on eggshells because you worry that someone might take things the wrong way and blow it all out of proportion.

I know you always have the best intentions! You are honest, trustworthy, very thoughtful & considerate. I'm glad you are my MOM!! I LOVE YOU♥

Carol Call said...

Mike, you did good for the first time blogging. We have a family one that is closed to the public except for the family and it's wonderful finding out about everyone. Even tho you wrote in 2008, it's good to hear from Linda. I love Mindy and miss Linda very much. Love to all, Carol